This month’s Refinery29 has a very personal article from our founder about what to say and definitely what not to say to people with cancer.
“When I Got Cancer, My Friend Said ‘I Wish You Hadn’t Told Me'” describes some awkward moments when she told friends about her diagnosis
…….”A very close friend said: “I wish you hadn’t told me you have cancer. I don’t know how to treat you now.” And then we talked about how awkward my diagnosis made her feel”.
But there were good discussions too
…….”Another thing that stuck in my mind was a friend saying “I’m sorry you have to go through this.” There was no pity or judgment. She was genuinely sorry for my experience, without feeling sorry for me”.