You could say things like the following to get the conversation going:
Don't forget that you can always get advice regarding your friend's cancer, for example, you can always call a cancer helpline to get further advice.
Here are some cancer helpline websites from different countries
UK:
USA:
Canada:
Australia:
France:
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This can have a devastating impact, even resulting in death. Some examples where a patient may have received substandard cancer treatment includes:
In cases where there has been a delayed and/or misdiagnosis of mouth cancer, this may have resulted in the patient experiencing further complications and/or he/she requires more invasive treatment which could have otherwise been avoided.
Some of the signs and/or symptoms of mouth cancer and when they should be further investigated.
According to The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) Guidelines, a suspected cancer pathway referral (for an appointment within 2 weeks) should be considered when there is either:
Consider an urgent referral for assessment for possible oral cancer by a dentist in people who either have:
Your GP and/or dentist should carry out a physical examination and ask you about your symptoms. If mouth cancer is suspected and/or indicated, you should be referred to hospital for further investigation including speaking to a specialist oral and maxillofacial surgeon. It is thereafter likely that a biopsy will be taken to confirm the diagnosis.
You can contact the Dental Negligence Team for an initial consultation if you think you have a negligence claim. When they receive your enquiry, their dedicated team will listen to your concerns and confirm exactly what they think has gone wrong with your dental care. Following this, prospects of success will be considered and methods of funding discussed.
Once funding is in place, your case will be transferred to a different member of the Dental Negligence Team, who will be responsible for your claim from start to conclusion. They will be available to answer any questions, provide detailed advice, and guide you through the claim process.
A claim for compensation will normally have to be brought within three years of the alleged negligent treatment, or three years from your date of knowledge. There are some exceptions, such as for children who have until their 21st birthday to bring a claim, or adults with mental difficulties who have no time limit.
In cases where a loved one has sadly passed away, the three-year limit often starts from the date of death but provided that the date of death is within three years of the alleged negligent treatment.
A compensation claim is made up of two parts:
Depending on the seriousness of your injury, we may be able to pursue a compensation claim for continuing future loss. For example, you may be unable to earn as much as you did before the incident or need help with personal and household tasks.
In cases where you are claiming on behalf of a deceased loved one, you can claim for the pain and suffering experienced by the deceased before they died, bereavement damages (which are usually limited to the spouse or civil partner of the deceased) and funeral expenses. If you were financially dependant on the deceased as you were either a spouse or child of the deceased, you may be able to recover compensation for loss of dependency. We come across these cases quite often especially in instances where the surviving spouse must now cope with additional costs and/or expenses which he/she could have otherwise avoided.
The Dental Negligence Team have been working in the field of dental negligence for over 30 years. Our team have expert knowledge of the field and are specialists in seeking maximum, and sometimes record-breaking, levels of compensation.
The majority of cancer negligence cases are due to delayed diagnosis or misdiagnosis of cancer, advice given about proper treatment, management decisions or medical intervention performance.
Examples that might give rise to a claim
*Not recognizing signs or symptoms being potentially due to cancer
*Not asking appropriate questions, arranging examinations, and/or making an appropriate or urgent referrals due to a potential cancer diagnosis
*Not acting on or delaying test results or recommendations
*Wrong test result interpretation
*Performing tests badly
*Organising inaproriate tests
*Not giving appropriate advice
*technical error in tests or medical treatment
*not providing appropriate follow-up
You will need to prove two things for compensation claims
1. Negligence: the professionals proving care did so in a way that would not be supported by any responsible body of such practitioners in those circumstances
2. Damage: the negligence you are claiming for has caused damage that you can prove
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My Dad entered through the door as he carried her to the bedroom. I was bewildered, trying to figure out what was going on. He explained, that a few months ago, my Mom was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer and had been going to Gainesville, Florida for her treatments. He told me, “Today was her last day for treatment and surgery. She is cancer free. The doctors removed all of the cancer”. My mouth dropped open with surprise as I watched my Mom, as she regained her strength. My Dad said to me, “Let her get her rest”.
My Mom was first diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer in 2014. She became cancer free in 2016 and was re-diagnosed in 2017 with metastatic breast cancer. In March of 2018 my mom succumbed to metastatic breast cancer.
My Mom was an outstanding singer who loved her family, had a passion for fashion, and was an extraordinary cook. She had a beautiful spirit with an infectious smile. What I loved the most about Mom, was her laugh. Seeing and hearing her laugh certainly did my heart some good.
It can draw families closer together or can pull some families apart. Knowing about my mother's disease caused me to have a greater appreciation for my life, love ones and my faith. My faith in God became stronger and relentless; my love for my family increased and I decided not to take anything or anyone for granted. Now, seeing life in a new light, in my Dad I see a fighter, strength for us all; he is our rock. In my sister, I see resilience, optimism and I admire her unstoppable faith. As for my mom, I will always remember her relentless spirit and watching her faith increase as she fought until the end.
In her final months, as she battled the disease, I noticed that she lost a great amount of weight and her laughter began to fade. It was scary to see. Judging by her condition, I assumed that it was too painful for her to laugh. So, when she saw or heard something, that she found humorous, she would just smile.
She was to taken to UF Shands in Gainesville, Florida, since all of her doctors were there. I thought that she was having issues with her medication, but I received the most unexpected, devastating news. We were told that there was a tumor in her esophagus, but I knew that it was something more. The next day, Dad gave me and my sister the news that the cancer had returned at an aggressive Stage 4. I couldn’t believe it! That moment felt so unreal. On the following day, I drove to Gainesville, Florida to visit her. When I entered her room in ICU, I did not know what to expect. What I saw brought me to tears. My Mom was heavily sedated and connected to a ventilator. Although, she was heavily sedated, she knew that I was there, with a nod of her head or rubbing my hand with her finger. I felt like I stepped into the Twilight Zone.
My Dad was in tears. He shook his head in disbelief and kept saying,
This is happening too soon; too fast. She wanted to tell you girls, but she knew that she would beat this
“Your mother has an aggressive form of cancer, metastatic cancer, and it is spreading throughout her body. We will do everything that we can to keep her comfortable”. The next few weeks, was a test and trial in our faith, but we kept praying, stayed hopeful and optimistic for things to change for the better. We prayed and believed for a miracle.
When going through a hopeless situation, such as a loved one or friend having cancer, you have to find a healthy outlet or support system to help pull you through the difficult time. During this time, I found myself forming that support system through prayer and meditation, friendships, and exercising. One of my friends invited me to attend a Zumba class and I loved it! From that point, I made a conscious decision to live a healthy life, which continues on today.
On March 6, I came home from work and I saw my dad sitting in the dimly lit family room. I was surprised to see him sitting there, I immediately asked what’s going on, “Where’s Mom?” He asked me to sit down and tried calling my sister. He wanted to tell us the life-changing news at the same time. At that moment, he was not able to reach her, but was able to reach her later. He said these words, “You know your momma love you girls and is very proud of you. Your Mom passed away tonight at 11 pm.” The sound of uncontrollable cries and tears filled the room.
Here are three important keys that I want you to remember.
First, don’t give up. Do not lose hope or your faith. The situation that you or your love one is facing may look bleak but anything is possible. Keep hope and your faith strong.
Secondly, surround yourself with positivity. Keep positive energy and people around you. Use the positive energy around you as fuel to continue the fight. I found that identifying a support system such as counseling, healthy friendships, and healthy outlets (i.e. prayer and meditation, exercising, playing an instrument or singing) will help get your mind focused and you will recalibrate.
Third and lastly, know that you are a winner. Although we prayed and believed for a miracle for Mom, we did not lose our faith in God. We still believe. She did not lose her fight. She won.
I Am A Male Breast Cancer Survivor And This Is My Story
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Although rare, men can get breast cancer. About 1 in 833 Zimbabwean men are diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime, that’s about 1% of all breast cancer cases.
Robert Taylor is one of those men who has survived breast cancer, and he was proud to share his story during the Zimbabwean Men’s Health Month meeting and bust the myth that men can’t be diagnosed with breast cancer. This is his story.
I called my wife and asked her to look. She agreed something was not right and that I should see the doctor.
My male stubbornness kicked in immediately, You know what I mean, we men know much better than any doctor and I informed my wife it was nothing and I was fine.
About six months later I was at the doctor for a general check-up and showed him this painless pea size thing. He gave me a letter of referral to a surgeon in our area and suggested I make an appointment and see the surgeon. Again the male instinct kicked in: “lag it af” – I am not in pain and don’t need to see this guy, it’ll just be a waste of money.
Not only that I had asked another friend about lumps and bumps, etc and he agreed it was probably just a small gland and would go down sooner or later.
By the end of 2008 this little lump had not only grown, but was also oozing slightly, each morning I would rub a bit of Reparil Gel on it, as the cell phone in my pocket would irritate it no end.
On the 28th December the same year my wife had an appointment with her doctor and I just happened to pop in to tell her I would be waiting in the car park when she was done. She asked if her doctor could just take look at the “little lump”. I said nothing to worry about, but the doctor insisted on seeing it, so I opened my chest up.
She did not touch it or even look closely, so I was furious with the doctor, who gave her the right to say I had cancer? The fact that I had an inverted nipple and the orange peel symptoms meant nothing. Again I tried a feeble “it’s nothing” only this time no one was listening to me, the doctor gave me a referral to the surgeon, and made the appointment for me.
There seemed no way out of this for me.
Here this lady doctor was telling me, a man, that I have breast cancer.
How ridiculous is that, I don’t even have “breasts”!
I could only see the surgeon on the 17th January 2009. While I waited to see the surgeon, I was convinced that everyone was making a huge mistake, and that it was impossible that I could have breast cancer. Although my grandfather had passed away at a ripe old age from prostate cancer, and my father had passed away at the age of thirty-five from lung cancer (both were smokers), I had never touched a cigarette in my life. So how could I possibly have cancer?
My thoughts at the time were that this was a huge inconvenience to me – not only did I not have cancer, but I was running my own business and had wages to pay and many things to organize. I was totally convinced it was just a storm in a tea cup, I did not have cancer period.
I can tell you that I was so grateful to my wife, Linda, who went with me, because when I heard the words “you have cancer” it felt as if the surgeon had started speaking a different language, one where I could only understand a few words. The next surprise was that he wanted to operate the next day and he wanted to push a needle into my lump, to extract some fluid. I was not about to let that happen. (As a child I had to receive a few lumbar punches, this put the fear of God into me as far as needles were concerned). However, unless I did this procedure, our medical aid would not pay, as they didn’t cover “boob jobs” on men! My poor wife and the surgeon managed to get the medical aid to agree to a mastectomy instead, which was done on the 4th February 2009.
If positive for cancer, they would check the lymph nodes under my arms. When I came round I felt the drain, and then I felt a second drain. I realized then that it had been cancer all along. An absolute calm came over me. I had no pain and tried to see if they had in fact done a mastectomy.
The surgeon popped round in the afternoon and bla bla’d about cancer and the lymph nodes under the arm being affected, and therefore having been removed and that should I have any pain, there was a morphine pump attached to the drip that I could just push to alleviate the pain. He told me that it was stage 3 cancer. That evening he popped round again and asked if I had been to the loo for a leak, I told him it was not necessary as I never had the need. Next thing I know he wanted to put a catheter in. Well that was a real no no! He told me he would give me 30 minutes to go and then he would be back. Man that was the worst 30 minutes ever, I stood at the loo trying to go but nothing happened. I started praying that the surgeon got held up somewhere so that he’d forget about me. No luck. Thirty minutes later there he was ready to insert this jolly thing. It was the most humiliating thing for me, but necessary, and so began the process of letting go of self-controlled life.
I started coughing and told my wife that these drains would fall out. There is nothing worse than a sick male believe me, my poor wife called friends of ours in the medical profession to please come and help her make sure the drains did not fall out. They showed her how to change the dressing, empty and count the contents of the drains and assured both of us that all was as it should be.
The following weekend my wife’s family arrived out of the blue for a visit, mother-in-law included! Then I learned my family would be coming up during the next two months for a visit. I kept very quiet after that, I just sat there letting my frustration build up inside. By the time everyone had gone home, I asked my wife why no one had the guts to tell me I was going to die, and how long had I actually been given? The poor woman was so taken aback by my thoughts that she had no answer.
How selfish I was at that time; I never thought that maybe she also needed support; it was not all about me.
This would not be a problem, I had everything worked out, I would do the chemo thing, and he would just have to give it to me in pill form. Ha Ha how they laughed, this was not the way it was to be. He then suggested that I have a port inserted and that the chemo be administered this way, so it was back to the hospital for this little procedure. This was a dam sight more painful than I had thought it would be. But I was now ready to get my chemo. My sister came up to be with me on the first round. My wife had spoken with the oncologist about my phobia for needles and he had prescribed several pills, as well as an anaesthetic type of cream to rub on my skin around the area of the port. I sat there in a daze and received all my little bags of chemo, after which I was taken home. I fell asleep for the rest of the day, and the following day I felt fine and decided to go to work the following day. My wife would not hear anything about it, so I spent another boring day at home. I was now convinced I would not have any reaction to the chemo, just goes to show men can handle anything.
I started feeling flu symptoms and got this terrible pain in my chest, I thought okay this must be what dying is about, the pain got worse and I started breathing with difficulty. I started looking at my situation, here I am dying, my wife is fast asleep, snoring next to me. Lord how unfair is that, does no one care about me? In desperation, I thought let me try a bit of bicarb, amazing how that worked. The following day it felt as if all my joints were seizing up, I would have to go and see the oncologist, because he must have done something wrong. While there, an old lady who was on her third round with cancer told me to try some citric soda before and after each round, as it would help. After I had been told I would make it, I felt much better and went back to my old routine.
I then decided to have what was left shaved off. Seeing myself with no hair was to say the least, frightening, who was this ugly dude in the mirror, that coupled with this dent in my chest and this scar line through its centre was to say the least horrid to look at, I had been stripped of my dignity in just a few short weeks.
All too soon it was time for the next round, Linda woke me up extra early so that the pills could work before we got to the oncologist. One nurse would lay across my legs, and my wife would hold my hands down, whilst another nurse would hook me up. All the time I would be shouting “take it out, take it out”.
After being hooked up I would sit there in a daze passing comments to other patients like “Ag shame that red devil is going to give you the best haircut of your life.” Day three was the worst, I tried to throw up and it felt as if I was summoning the stuff from somewhere well below my knees. After my fifth round of chemo the oncologist told my wife that he felt I did not need the last round of chemo.
During this time I took it upon myself to totally revamp my garden, this kept my mind busy and I think it was a saving grace in its own way.
Before the radiotherapy treatment I had to go for “simulation” which is where they measure you up and draw lines on you and set the radiation computer to radiate the exact points and determine the degree of intensity. The bed felt like a tiny little bench on which you are precariously placed. All was well and relaxing until they came to tattoo me, I almost leaped off the bench. I was gathered up and told to return and lie still it was just a two tiny pricks. This is true and I felt a fool for the scene but could not help it.
I then completed 6 weeks of radiation Monday to Friday each week. It was only in the last week that I started getting sores under my arms, where I would sweat. These were in fact rather painful and another patient advised me to put Gentian violet on these sores. This worked very well on the sores, but messed up any “designer shirts” I might have chosen to wear! I was advised never to get the radiated area wet during the radiation treatment, nor to put any creams or perfume on. I stuck to these instructions and am grateful I did.
This treatment was followed by five years of Tamoxifen tablets which are basically hormone blockers. As a result of these I had the pleasure of experiencing hot flushes. This, together with the annual mammograms, have given me a great respect for our female counterparts.
Despite all this I believe that my journey with cancer has been one of the greatest blessings in my life. And YES men can be diagnosed with breast cancer and overcome it.
Getting older
The biggest risk factor for breast cancer in men is being old. Most male breast cancers being diagnosed in men between the ages of 60 and 70.
High oestrogen levels
All men normally produce small amounts of the hormone oestrogen. But high oestrogen production has been linked to a higher breast cancer risk. High oestrogen levels can occur in:
• men who are very overweight (obese)
• chronic liver conditions, such as cirrhosis
• some genetic conditions
Radiation exposure
Men who have been previously exposed to radiation to the chest area are at an increased risk of developing breast cancer.
Family members with breast cancer or a breast cancer gene (inherited genetic causes)
Men who have female relatives with breast cancer have an increased risk of breast cancer. This risk gets greater the closer the relationship. So a man with a sister or mother with breast cancer may be at a higher risk of developing it himself. The risk also increases if these women were diagnosed at a young age (below 40).
Signs of possible breast cancer in men include:-
• Lumps in the shower that are either under the nipples and the areola. This is usually hard, painless, and does not move around within the breast.
• The nipple may turn inwards
• There may be fluid oozing from the nipple (nipple discharge), which could be streaked with blood.
• There may be a sore or rash around the nipple that does not go away.
• About 40% of breast cancer in men is estrogen-positive and many have this hormone in their urine.
Breast cancer in men is rare, in 2017 there were around 400 new cases diagnosed each year in the UK, compared with 60,000 new cases in women.
Black men have the highest incidence rates of breast cancer (2.7 out of every 100,000 men in the USA), followed by white men (1.9 out of every 100,000 men in the USA).
In both men and women, it is usually the case that the greater the lymph node involvement, the more aggressive the cancer is. The extent of disease within the lymph nodes is actually less important than the total number of lymph nodes affected. The more lymph nodes involved, the more serious the cancer diagnosis could be. As with female breast cancer, the staging and grading of breast cancer in men will give information on the aggressiveness of the cancer and can assist in the choice of treatment. However, it's also important to note that no two breast cancer cases are the same and the aggressiveness of the cancer can vary greatly between individuals, even in males. It's important to consult a medical professional, especially a breast cancer specialist, to understand the specific characteristics of the cancer and the best course of treatment.
The survival rates and treatments for male breast cancer are very comparable to those for female patients. Overall, the 5-year survival rate for male breast cancer is 84%. Individual survival rates depend on different factors and, as with all cancers, survival rates can vary depending on factors such as the stage of the cancer at the time of diagnosis, the aggressiveness of the tumor, and the patient's overall health. It's important to note that breast cancer in men survival rate can be influenced by many factors and should be used as a general guide and not a definitive prediction for individual cases.
Male breast cancer, like breast cancer in women, can be treated and the outcome can be positive if it is diagnosed at an early stage. Male breast cancer treatment typically involves a combination of surgery, radiation therapy, and/or chemotherapy. The type of treatment that a patient receives will depend on the stage and characteristics of the cancer, as well as the patient's overall health.
In advanced breast cancer stages, treatment for male breast cancer can help to control the cancer and improve the patient's quality of life, but it may not result in a cure. It is important to consult a medical professional and breast cancer specialist to understand the specific characteristics of the cancer and the best course of treatment that can result in cure or extend the life expectancy.
It's important to note that breast cancer is a complex disease, and while some cases of breast cancer can be cured, others may not be. It's important to have a discussion with your healthcare provider about your individual prognosis and treatment options.
A lump in the male breast is not always cancer, but it is important to have any lump in the breast checked by a medical professional to determine the cause. In men, breast lumps are most often caused by a noncancerous (benign) condition called gynecomastia. This condition causes the breast tissue to enlarge and can create a lump that feels rubbery or firm. However, it is important to have a lump in the male breast evaluated by a healthcare professional to rule out breast cancer and it is important to catch it early. The healthcare professional will examine the lump, possibly order a mammogram or ultrasound, and based on the results, a biopsy may be performed to determine if the lump is benign or cancerous. If you feel a lump in your breast, it is important to consult a medical professional for an evaluation. Don't ignore it, early detection can make a huge difference in the outcome of the disease.
Male breast cancer is relatively rare, but it can occur at any age. However, it is most commonly diagnosed in men between the ages of 60 and 70, but it can occur in men at any age. It's also worth mentioning that the incidence of breast cancer in men increases as they age, peaking around age 60-70. However, breast cancer can occur in men at any age, so it's important for men to be aware of any changes in their breast tissue and to consult a medical professional if they notice anything unusual. A family history of breast cancer in men or women, radiation exposure, and genetic predisposition such as BRCA2 gene mutations or Klinefelter's syndrome can also increase the risk of male breast cancer. It's important for men to be aware of these risks and discuss them with their healthcare provider in order to establish a personalized breast cancer screening schedule.
Early breast cancer in men can be painless in the early stages. However, as the cancer grows and spreads, it can become painful. In some cases, men may experience pain or discomfort in the breast tissue, or they may feel a lump or thickening in the breast. Some people may also experience skin irritation or dimpling, redness, or scaling of the nipple or breast skin. Other symptoms can include discharge from the nipple or breast, or a sudden change in the size or shape of the breast. It's worth noting that symptoms of breast cancer in men can be different from those in women, and it's not always easy to detect. That's why it's important for men to be aware of any changes in their breast tissue, and to consult a medical professional if they notice anything unusual. If you're experiencing pain in your breast or notice any changes in your breast tissue, it's important to schedule an appointment with a healthcare professional as soon as possible. The sooner breast cancer is diagnosed, the better the chances of successful treatment.
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Hello, I’m Helen Ruckledge from FadFree Nutrition and I would love to share my cancer story with you and how it lead to me discovering the best nutrition for cancer patients .....*takes a deep breath*
A mum of four, tea lover and freelance nutritionist, I provide fad-free, scientifically-backed nutritional advice, within the constraints of real life (and believe me, I understand the ‘real life’ thing). Last, but by no means least, I am a breast cancer previvor, turned survivor.
As a highly qualified nutritionist working within mainstream NHS recommendations, I never thought I would fall for any of the myths online about what to eat and not to eat after a cancer diagnosis. What I didn’t bargain for is how utterly desperate you can feel when diagnosed with cancer, especially when you have four young children to stay alive for.
My story begins back in 1997, when my beloved mum was diagnosed with breast cancer on her first routine mammogram, aged 50. Despite embracing every treatment offered to her, less than three short years later, my mum’s cancer was back and it was not going to go away. We lost her in 2006 and I am still grieving. But that’s another story.
On her death, my mum’s oncologist advised me that around my 40th birthday I should approach my genetics service about a possible genetic link, which I dutifully did.
A strong family history of breast cancer emerged after my mum’s death, but despite this, my local genetics service put me at low/moderate risk of breast cancer because I did not carry the BRCA gene mutations. However, a bit of schoolgirl maths (I always was partial to facts and figures), quickly revealed that the probability the breast cancers in our family occurring by chance was extremely slim. Almost negligible in fact. Having witnessed my mum’s long-suffering experience with breast cancer, I knew instantly that I wanted risk-reducing surgery.
Cutting a long story short, with the help of the National Hereditary Breast Cancer Helpline (NHBCH), which I can highly recommend if you find yourself in a similar predicament, I was eventually referred to a genetics team outside of my area. They immediately classed me as high risk, due to an unknown gene mutation, and eligible for risk-reducing surgery.
I was chomping at the bit and desperate to get on with it for the sake of my children, but there was a bit of a wait. Expressing my anxiety to my surgeon, he reassured me that ‘nobody ever gets breast cancer waiting for risk reducing surgery’. How wrong he turned out to be. I had my bilateral mastectomy as soon as the first available slot was offered to me, a few weeks before my 43rd birthday.
One autumn day, nine weeks after my surgery, I was in the hospital for a routine check-up. My consultant appeared with a Macmillan nurse (I thought it was a bit weird at the time), sat me down and told me that when the histology came back from the tissue removed in my operation, it showed I already had breast cancer.
The room span. I didn’t even register the doctor’s optimistic opinion that I was very lucky to have caught it so early and had an excellent prognosis.
Feeling disorientated and scared, my partner and I dragged ourselves out of the hospital and back home to hang on tight to our four innocent children.
I went on to undergo five further surgeries; to clear the margins (a second invasive tumour was found that had been left in following the mastectomies), to dismantle the reconstruction due to an infection and then to reconstruct my breasts again in several stages.
I was desperate not to follow in the footsteps of my unfortunate mum who I missed so much, so I started to look at lifestyle changes that may reduce my risk of breast cancer recurrence.
I soon learned that there’s a minefield of nutritional information for cancer patients, online and in books. Much advice is well-intentioned but unfortunately, frequently it is not grounded in scientific evidence.
There are so many persuasive voices, claiming certain foods are ‘superfoods’ that will stop your cancer coming back and others claiming that you must eliminate certain foods or food groups as they are likely to send you to an early grave. Some advice is born out of emotive personal stories like my own and individual experiences of diet and cancer. But this doesn’t make it true for everyone.
Even with two Masters degrees, one in Human Nutrition and one in Philosophy and Psychology, I can vouch for the fact that it is so difficult to think clearly about nutrition after a cancer diagnosis, when you feel vulnerable and are desperate to stay alive. It’s so easy to believe the hype and to get swept along by fad diets and false hope.
Like many breast cancer patients, I was desperate to regain some control at a time when surgeons and oncologists were making all the decisions in my life. If you’ve had cancer, I’m sure you’ll agree that changing what you eat is an easy way to take back some control.
I found myself giving up dairy, just to hedge my bets. What can be the harm in that, I thought? The hardest thing was drinking black tea, because I adore a traditional Yorkshire brew with a splash of milk and drink it pretty much all day, every day. It was difficult, but worth it for my kids, I told myself.
After a few months, when I managed to reign in some of my anxiety and focus back on my academic knowledge, I realized that I was far more at risk eliminating dairy than I would be eating it. The scientific evidence is just not convincing that eliminating dairy does not improve prognosis, this is also the opinion of the NHS and the World Cancer Research Fund. Furthermore, I was taking Tamoxifen, which increased my risk of osteoporosis, so reducing my calcium intake was the last thing I should be doing.
So I sat down with a proper Yorkshire cuppa and some cheese on a buttered teacake, just as my mum had found so comforting when she was diagnosed all those years ago. What a relief.
As a nutritionist, I would suggest three simple steps for cancer patients to help you navigate nutritional nonsense.
Maximizing your energy, supporting your immune system, helping you cope with the physical demands of treatment, stabilizing your mental health and ultimately improving your prognosis, are all of huge importance to anyone with a primary or secondary cancer diagnosis. Eating well and good nutrition can assist with all of these issues and can make a huge difference to your health, wellbeing, and quality of life.
My mum was always determined to eat what made her happy throughout her cancer ordeal (think afternoon tea…. most days!). She thought sharing and enjoying food with others made a big impact on her health and wellbeing at a difficult time. I would agree that the importance of food for comfort and enjoyment cannot be underestimated either.
This chapter is where you appear in my story!
As a breast cancer survivor myself, I have researched the scientific literature about cancer and nutrition in fine detail for my own benefit. Now I am six years post-diagnosis, I love to share this knowledge with others, with a bucketful of empathy.
If you are feeling confused by the conflicting nutritional messages, scared about eating well and eating the wrong things and feel you need individualized nutritional support, I can help you. I can listen and respond to what you have heard or read (I do love a bit of myth-busting!). I can also guide you in how to eat following a cancer diagnosis, to maximise your energy, health, nutrition and quality of life through treatment and beyond.
Would you feel relieved if all the confusion over what to eat would evaporate and you were empowered to make informed decisions about your diet with complete confidence? If so, the simple act of contacting me may be a dramatic turning point in your cancer story.
I am pleased to offer you a completely FREE 15 minute discovery call in which you can tell me about your cancer story (now you know mine, it’s only fair!) and we can discuss the best nutrition in cancer and nutritional practices for cancer patients and how I can help you. If you are interested in whether particular dietary suggestions you’ve heard about could benefit your health, you can leave those with me to research, if I don’t already know the answers.
There is absolutely no obligation to proceed to a full consultation, but if you choose to, I will offer a rigorous and detailed analysis of your nutritional situation, followed up with a written summary of everything we have discussed (memory isn’t at its best when undergoing the stress of cancer treatment, is it?). I’ll throw in some simple cancer-friendly meal and snack ideas too.
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If you have a friend or loved one who’s going through radiotherapy treatment as a result of their cancer diagnosis, you’re probably keen to help them out in some way. But how? Knowing how to do that in the right way and in a way that’ll be helpful without being too intrusive can be tough. And each person’s needs and preferences will always be specific to them.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that you should wait for them to ask you for help though because some people are very uncomfortable about asking for help, even when they really need it. They might be hesitant to burden you with the things that they need help with, so putting yourself out there and offering up help is key. You’ll want to make it clear that you’re there for them.
Below I will share some of the ways in which you can be helpful to someone going through radiation therapy, with some suggestions of things they may want or need but don't know how to ask for.
It’ll be important for your friend or family member to get to their radiation treatment without too much stress or hassle. If you know that they don’t have anyone who can take them there or they sometimes need a little extra help to get there, you could offer to do that for them. Appointments often come thick and fast for cancer patients and radiotherapy can be every single day for many weeks, so staying on top of all the appointments is important.
It could be as simple as filling in when the person who usually takes them to their radiation treatment is not able to do so. Being the person who can step in and offer this basic service can be essential. The person going through radiotherapy will more than likely have enough stress to deal with without having to also worry about getting there on time and on schedule.
Attending radiotherapy appointments with them might be very helpful. Although you won't be able to attend the radiotherapy session, just being the person waiting for them when they come out might be comforting. If you know that they would otherwise have to attend their appointments alone and they might not be comfortable doing that, you could offer to attend and wait for them. Of course, you don’t want to make the mistake of inviting yourself, but offering and asking won't do any harm.
If you do end up attending appointments with them, you could help with some practical things. There’s often a lot of information that’s relayed during or after radiotherapy that needs to be remembered. You could offer to take notes of the things that are said so that they can be remembered and you can remind your friend of them later.
People who are going through radiotherapy treatment can sometimes experience brain fog. It can make it difficult to focus and sometimes difficult to remember details. That’s why taking notes and keeping track of those details is something may be valuable. It’s a good example of a practical way in which you can help and make yourself useful.
If the person going through cancer treatment has a young family and has to deal with all the tasks and responsibilities that come with that, you should try to do whatever you can to help out (if they want you to). It’s very difficult to balance all of those tasks and keep things moving in the right direction while also receiving treatment for cancer. It makes all of those tasks more difficult than they used to be for understandable reasons.
There are plenty of ways in which you can help cancer patients, and looking after the kids while they’re resting is one example of that. Rest is vitally important for people who are receiving radiotherapy treatments. It’s hard to get the rest that’s needed when you need to do all the tasks associated with looking after children and managing a household. You can help them out with that.
Again, this is something that you can offer to do and it’s not necessary to wait to be asked. It’s something that people often don’t like to ask for because they don’t want to ask much of the people around them, even if they could really do with that extra assistance and a little extra rest.
There are lots of ways in which you can alleviate the pressure on the person you’re trying to help. As we’ve discussed and as you know, radiotherapy can be tough and making sure that the person receiving that treatment gets enough rest in between treatments is vitally important. It’ll help them deal with the process and procedures much more smoothly if they’re able to get that kind of rest.
Everyone’s situation is unique and individual to them, and it’s up to you to find ways in which you can help. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with simply asking them what you can do for them. And if you notice that there are things that are taking up their time and stopping them from resting, and you think you can help with them, it’s definitely a good idea to offer it.
Sometimes, you’ll need to get creative and find ways to help out. It’s all about making sure that they get the rest and recovery time they need; that’s what it comes down to and you can see it as your mission to help make that possible. It’s something that you’ll have to figure out depending on the circumstances and your relationship.
One useful and effective thing you can do when trying to help someone who’s going through radiotherapy treatment is to create a care package for them. This should include a range of things that they would find useful and comforting as they go through the difficult and often testing process of receiving the treatment they require. It’s a perfect way of showing you care while also doing something that’s practically helpful to that person.
So what should be included in the care package you create for them? Well, that’s up to you to decide, but there are some things in particular that you should definitely think about adding and some things you shouldn't. For a start, don't add any perfumed or harsh cleansers or toiletries as these can irritate freshly treated skin. Instead, you could look at some things that can help them take care of themselves while taking into account the specific side effects that come with radiotherapy treatment. Perhaps include an emollient cream, which can be used to care for the area of the body being treated? It’s vital to keep the area being treated moisturized with a non-perfumed, non-reactive moisturizer. Emollients do this and an emollient wash can also be used as a good alternative to soap.
You could add a few things that can offer comfort and make resting a little easier than it otherwise might be. For example, pillows, a blanket and /or sleep masks are good options if you want to provide them with greater comfort. Or by a ready-made care package, as below
There are other suitable gifts for people going through radiation therapy, and as long as you remember not to get anything that might irritate burns, you will probably be OK. Below is a sample of the gifts we provide, with radiation therapy patients in mind.
Helping out with things like food prep can be a good idea if you want to make yourself useful. Good food and a healthy diet is important for anyone dealing with cancer, especially when they’re going through radiation treatment. If you want to help out, you can prepare them some healthy dishes that will help them through their recovery and get the nutrition that they need. Just make sure you are aware if they have any special diet, dietary restrictions or if their taste has changed due to their cancer or therapies.
But it's not just about making sure that people with cancer get the food and nutrition that they need; it’s also about making sure that they don’t have to spend a lot of their time cooking when they could be resting and taking care of themselves. We all know how tasking and challenging cooking can be and taking that pressure off their shoulders can be a big positive.
There are lots of ways you can help, from coming over and cooking for them in the evening to preparing some food in your kitchen and bringing it over to them so that they don’t have to cook for themselves. All of these things can be highly positive, so it’s definitely something for you to consider.
It’s not always the big things that matter to a person when they’re going through cancer treatment. The smaller seeming things can also have a big impact on these kinds of things. For example, if you can be there for them and listen to their problems and the things they’re going through, that’s something that can be really helpful for them.
Simply letting them vent and share their feelings, no matter how negative, you could have a positive impact. Sometimes it’s better for them to get those thoughts and feelings out and to share them with another person than to bottle them up inside. Having someone to talk to can make them feel a lot better about things and simply having an outlet for those feelings is healthy, and you could facilitate that.
It’s also about making sure cancer patients don’t feel alone as they go through this process. It can be incredibly lonely when you’re dealing with those challenges and it’s up to you to let them know that they’re not alone and that you are there for them in whatever way you can be, no matter how tough things get.
It’s also important to remember that people with cancer receiving radiotherapy won’t necessarily want to be treated differently than they would be before they were diagnosed with cancer. That’s why you should try to offer them some normality. Talk to them about normal things and talk to them in a normal way. It might sound strange, but this is often the most important thing of all.
When life is so different and all of these unfamiliar and scary things are happening, having normal things going on and a dose of normality can be really helpful. Don’t start treating them entirely differently to how you normally would, even if something does have to change. Try to have a laugh and talk to them about the things you would normally talk to them about.
Being a good friend when someone is going through radiotherapy is all about making that person feel more comfortable, and that extra normality you have the opportunity to bring can certainly help them with that. This is something that can be approached in many ways, so make the effort to keep things normal.
After this cancer treatment has been completed, they’ll need to do what they can to stay on track and maintain their recovery. There are so many things that need to be done, from looking after their skin to getting rest and everything in between. If you’re able to, you might want to attend appointments with them and understand what needs to happen next by listening to the thoughts and guidance of their doctors.
If you do that, you can understand what needs to happen and how you can support and motivate them when it comes to staying on track with their recovery. This is an important part of the treatment process and you’ll help them out a lot if they’re starting to struggle. That extra support from someone who cares about them can make a big difference.
It’s easy to get demoralized when dealing with something as challenging and serious as cancer, but staying on track remains vital throughout the process. If you can help cancer patients stay on track in whatever way you can it could be positive for them.
There are lots of small things you can do to help people with cancer and show that you’re there for them. These things do matter, even if they’re not going to have the biggest impact. Sometimes, a person just needs to have their day brightened up in a little way. It’s about lifting their spirits and making sure that they have the motivation to carry on.
You can do this in a variety of different ways, so it’s up to you to work out how you can make sure that this happens. It could be as small as showing up for them and being there when they’re feeling vulnerable. Showing that they’re not alone and that they’re fully supported makes a big difference and could lift their mood.
If you can't be there in person staying in touch is also something that could be important. You can show them that you’re there for them and that you’re thinking about them by simply calling. Calling them and being there to talk is something that’s important and easy to do, as we’ve discussed above. It’s also important to understand how valuable it is to know that someone cares, and that’s what staying in touch does.
Everyone is different and some people with cancer just want to shut themselves away and hide from the world when they are going through something that might be the toughest times. Staying in touch and keeping them connected to the world outside their bubble is a way in which you may be able help them.
Don’t hesitate to give them a call or even simply send them a message to find out how they’re doing. Let them tell you if they don't want to talk and don't be upset if that's the case. These are all relatively small things, but they make a big difference and that can’t be ignored.
When someone close to you is going through something as serious as cancer treatment, being there for them and helping them in any way you can is something that’s very important. It can sometimes be difficult to know how you can help, but the advice and options discussed above should give you a few positive places to start.
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I’d just got engaged to a wonderful man, and we had sold our houses to move in together with our 4 children. It was the day we got the keys to our new house that the consultant bluntly told me I had breast cancer. It wasn’t a surprise as since the tests three weeks before, my breast was on fire and swollen with my nipple turning in as fast as an umbrella on a windy day.
I decided pretty quickly after my diagnosis that I was going to be positive in my outlook. I was only 43, fit from running a marathon and 4 half marathons that year, healthy apart from being partial to a few gin’s. I had access to fantastic hospitals very close by and I had a really good support network.
My breast cancer was HER2 positive and advanced, but I was being told it was treatable even though it had spread to my lymph nodes. I was really cross with myself for not noticing this avocado size lump in my breast sooner, how could I have missed it as I was so good at checking my breasts…wasn’t I?
It was a miserable Christmas, and the decision to plan a small wedding to distract us. 150 people later and bald in my wedding dress we married and had the best day with a few steroid tablets to take the edge off.
If you’ve ever had an MRI you will know that concentrating on a playlist whilst it sounding like you’re strapped to the bottom of a jet during take-off is impossible. It was during these noisy minutes that I realised that forgetting to check my boobs for lumps and changes had nearly cost me my life. If I hadn’t found the 7cm x 9cm lump when I had it would have surely spread and I wonder what I could do to help others. So I started to blog and the first of the month check for a lump was born.
Through Facebook, I have shared resources and information as well as my story. I’ve created posters, been featured in local and national news and written and illustrated a parody called ‘We’re Going On A Boob hunt’. Cheesy, but effective.
But I saw an opportunity to change a negative into a positive by raising awareness. I’m now aware that there are campaigns out there with the same message reaching a far bigger audience than myself. However, over the last 3 years I’ve had a lot of messages of thanks. Women who have found lumps early and have been treated. Some who tell me they have become more body aware, less afraid to check and more confident in knowing how. A fair few people who got check out and reassured. All have been thankful for the message and the reminder. A few have actually told me I have saved their lives!
I’ve always tried to take away some of the mystery and the hidden element of treatment by sharing my story. I posted a picture of me covered in the surgeon’s doodles the night before my mastectomy and it reached over seventy thousand people all around the world. I know it’s not for everyone but it helped me knowing I was making a difference and I really believe my positive attitude aided healing…as well as a shit load of chemo!
I was thrilled to learn that I’d had a full pathological response and was cancer-free around eight months after I’d found my lump. The six rounds of chemotherapy and surgery that followed had been brutal but worth it.
I thought it would be cathartic and it could help others with their ‘journey’ through cancer or supporting a loved one with cancer. I’m not sure now knowing the amount of work and time it would take I would make the same decision. There has been a lot of home learning how to edit, format, self-publish and market it. However, I’m so proud of what I have achieved. I wanted a book that would be uplifting and positive alongside the seriousness of treatment and the side effects it brings. As an art teacher, I wanted it to also make an impact visually so the book includes artwork and photographs to complement my story.
In the book I touch on why we are sometimes scared to face issues with our health. In my experience of trying to raise awareness, I’ve come across a ‘head in the sand’ mentality amongst some people who will avoid a smear, or self-checking for fear of what will be found. I’ve been there myself in the past and the psychology behind it really interests me. It’s also apparent that the longer my hair, the healthier I appear, and the further away in time from my diagnosis, people get less interested in the message.
Great for me, not great for a campaign that needs engagement or a large ‘reach’.
I’m one of the many lucky ones who have survived cancer and although I still have days where I just enjoy existing, I really try and live life to the full. I am at the early stages of starting a charity to support children and families whose loved ones are receiving treatment for cancer. (SAYF - Support around your family) I really felt like whilst I was surviving treatment, there was little or no support for my children or husband. Yet if I was dying or had died, there would be more help and support available. I’m still open to what that support could be and I think as every family is different, there will need to be a variety of options from counseling and holistic therapies to paying for a cleaner or a trip to the cinema. As I’m in the very early stages, I need to research how as a charity we will be best placed to help.
If you would like to know more about my story, my book is ‘Boobs Are For Life, Not Just For Insta!’
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